My 5 Staple Products and 3 Reasons Why Natural Hair is Dope

I decided to big chop my hair in March of 2014.  It was a decision I had toyed with for quite a while.  As I have discovered more and more about myself, I found myself curious to know the natural state of my hair as it grows out of my head.  I didn’t know because I was raised on the “creamy crack” and was taught to maintain it every 6 weeks.

I made an agreement with myself – see who you are underneath all the extra.  Cut all my hair off and experience my natural texture.  I would give my natural hair texture a chance.  If I did not like it I could revert back to the “creamy crack.”  But, at least I have given my self and my natural hair an opportunity to live….

This blog is not me saying natural hair is Better than non natural hair.
This is not me saying natural hair is defined as the big chop. You may wear your Natural hair flat ironed. I dont make the rules and honestly I don’t like hard and fast rules any way.
This blog is NOT sponsored so I’m not being paid by anyone to endorse any of the products I’m discussing.
Now that’s out of the way….
I am going to tell you what I do in hopes of confirming with some that their process is consistent with mine to seal in moisture, or to introduce to some some tips on how to keep your natural hair moist.

I don’t really agree with this hair typing bit – but if I were to say, my hair is a 4a.

It took me about 6 months to figure out how to “style” my natural curls which really means I have perfected my wash and go, so know this was a process (just like everything else in life).
My natural curls appear the most defined when my hair is thoroughly cleansed. I also have found that adding a light color or highlight also adds dimension and depth to the look of my curls as well.

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(Photo by Jai Smith Photography)

The products:

For everyday moisture:

I have been using the Creme of Nature Detangling Conditioner…but any conditioner I good for a daily moisturizer. Detangling anything is your friend.

For a good co wash:

Deva Curl Co Wash

Deva Curl Conditioner

To define my curls:

Three Sisters of Nature Leave in Conditioner

To seal in moisture:

Oil (Almond, Avocado, Jamacian Black Castor)

To hold the curls:

Miss Jessie’s Pillow Curls

I wash my hair at least once a week to remove product buildup.

I cowash my hair every other day with any old conditioner to keep it moist, but the the Creme of Nature detangling conditioner is my fave. If  I want do a full wash co wash and condition I will use the Deva Curl products — it really leaves my hair super soft!

After a co wash I leave my hair soaking wet and add leave in conditioner to it.  My favorite is the Three Sisters of Nature Leave In Conditioner.  I then add a palmful of oil – doesn’t matter which kind – to seal in the moisture  I then add a two thumbs width of Miss Jessie’s Pillow Curls or Eco Syler to hold the curls. Then I shake shake shake my hair so the curls pop (thanks @krenaye1!) So that’s it – Daily Co Wash/Conditioner, Leave In Conditioner, oil, and gel.  I then use a diffuser to dry the excess water and let air dry.  I try different products, but relatively the same process.  What is your process for making your curls pop?

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Here’s why I think its dope to wear your hair natural:

3. It Connects You to your Authentic Self.

Guess what. Your natural unadulterated hair that grows our of your scalp.  Yea,  that’s you  Love it.  Embrace it.   The societal standard of beauty it is much more acceptable to wear your hair straight (and long).  However,  I challenged myself to love myself just the way I am first.  There is enough division in the world, from hair types to complexions that I just want to love me.  This includes loving the way my hair grows out my scalp, or at least giving me my hair a chance.  Be authentically you.

2.  No Two Textures are Alike/No Two Wash and Go’s are Alike

I can write about my process and my curls but each story, just like each ladies hair is different.  It just like a snowflake or a fingerprint.  That’s what makes us unique and I celebrate uniqueness.  There is no such thing as a good curl or a bad curl, there is just a different curl that requires more technique or product to make it behave.  Or maybe  your curls “look” is unique.  Own it.  Rock it.

1. It’s a Sisters Only Club

Anytime I see another sistah with natural hair I admire her.  I know that she and I have a connection immediately because we share the highs and lows of working with and manipulating our natural hair.  We publicly (or at least I) admire each other and how we have styled our curls.  We know or our potential bad hair days and our possible public perceptions.  And still we have decided to wear our hair natural.  It’s almost like we have to support each other because there are so few of us and its not a popular stance.  Anytime I see a natural I have to say “hey girl, hey” or “love your curls.”  I’m all about a positive and uplifting interaction!

So talk to me what is your process for styling your natural hair?

What are you favorite products?

Remember – Black Girl is who we are.  Magic is what we produce.  Our hair makes us unique.  Embracing the imperfection and non societal standards is a part of regaining our strength!

Thanks for reading! It would mean a lot to me if you’d like my story and share it with others.

Karla is a graduate of Middle Tennessee State University which a degree in Sociology, and is currently pursuing a MBA at Bethel University. She is a Nashville Native and Lifestyle Blogger; a Free Spirit, and a Music Lover. To subscribe to her monthly newsletter click here.  She can be reached via email:

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