3 Things I Learned on My First Solo Vacation

If you follow me on social media, you may have noticed that I was on the beach a few months ago.  It had been a couple of years since I’d been to the beach and I was desperately wanting to get. to. the. beach.
So I went online to Southwest, found a inexpensive “Wanna Get Away” Flight (yep, I sure do wanna get away) and got on down to Fort Lauderdale for 2 days of sun and low key fun.   You can never go wrong at the beach and being solo I had plenty of time to reflect, pay attention to myself and learn a few things as well…..

3.  Talk with the bartenders. Even if you don’t drink, sit at the bar.  Sitting at the bar is the signal that says “hey I’m open to talk.”    Ask your bartender their favorite drink, or what’s the drink of the choice in the city.  If that doesn’t strike up a conversation, then go to another bar!  I chatted it up with some guys in Fort Lauderdale and ended up meeting the chef and getting special made food and drinks!  In between trial plates, and sample-tinis, I learned where to go on the strip to have the best steak, where the food was overpriced, and what restaurant had the best views.   If you want to go off the beaten paths,

2.  It’s OK to be bored.  In a world where everyone is easily accessible, it can be hard to detach from non stimulation.  This is even more so amplified when you travel solo because you are your only source of entertainment. I felt myself become restless a few times.  However, in this space of focus, I allowed myself to experience the feeling of unresolved boredom.  It’s important to remember that every feeling doesn’t warrant a reaction. Typically when we are bored, we text someone,  or we scroll down one of our endless news feeds.    Instead of filling my boredom with activity, I felt bored.  And it lasted longer than a few minutes at times.  And I survived.

1. Trust Life to Give You Everything You Need.   I’ll admit, I’m a bit of a planner.  I knew that because I was headed to the beach solo, I would need to fill my time with entertainment. Or so  I thought. I planned on going shopping, taking a boat ride, parasailing,….all this jazz.  Well, something told me, why don’t you just go with the flow this time.  If you are feeling like you want to do all these activities, do them; but if you feel like sleeping the day away on the beach, do that too.  With this new found perspective I deleted all the bookmarks to the boat ride and parasailing vendors (because I would have it planned to a T).  When I arrived, I went with the flow and did exactly and only what I felt like doing in that moment.  That ended up consisting of sleeping on the beach, a low key night on the strip, and a nice dinner on the harbor.  I didn’t go any further than a few blocks from the hotel in all directions, out and up.  And yet still, I HAD ONE OF THE BEST TRIPS EVER.  Have you traveled solo? Where should I travel to next?

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Karla is a graduate of Middle Tennessee State University which a degree in Sociology, and is currently pursuing a MBA at Bethel University. She is a Nashville Native and Lifestyle Blogger; a Free Spirit, and a Music Lover. To subscribe to her monthly newsletter click here.  She can be reached via email: karla@nashvillesocialbutterfly.com

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  1. I traveled to Las Vegas solo. I bumped into someone local from Vegas as I was roaming through the casinos. We ended up conversating, got some food and she offered to show me around Vegas to all the non tourist areas! Free local tour guide. Solo travel is great if your mindset is right!

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